Why It’s So Hard to Change Something? #ReflectionSeries
Recently, I have been taking a course from Yale University about behavioral change. As many of you have experienced with diet culture, it’s not easy to make changes. Often, I find myself questioning the concept of motivation. There is a cliché saying that “if you really want it, you will get it.” This saying has always made me question my own ability and mindset. So, if I fail to engage in committed behavior, does that mean I don’t really want it? It took me a long time to understand that human nature is like a ball made of knitting threads with lots of knots in it over time. How can I define myself so easily when I am such a complex being? Through this course I’m taking, I have analyzed myself again and concluded with some behavioral adjustments. I often find myself motivated by negative emotions like shame, regret, and guilt. However, this is not effective compared to having positive emotions regarding change. When I was bullied by my friends at university, I felt the urge to lose we...